I’m not a fan of typical Hollywoodesque proposals – the whole ring in the champagne glass, proposal over dinner scene. I’ve found them sweet but they don’t make me go ‘aaaawwwww’ at all! But mine did leave me in tears…..
My (then) boyfriend was traveling for 4 days and before leaving, fixed a dinner date with me for the next week ( strong hint but I didn’t get it then) saying we hadn’t been out without friends in a very long time and I agreed (We’ve been friends for a decade and started dating a couple of years back and are eventually getting married).
Back in Mumbai – date night – and he had already chosen the restaurant even though he was aware it’s not one of my favourite places. He picks me up and was a little overdressed for a casual dinner (he usually puts on a nice pair of jeans with a semi formal shirt) in trousers, a formal shirt with cuff links et al 😕 – I still didn’t feel something was fishy! To my disbelief he even pointed out the chair I should sit on 😮 and had an unusually long conversation with the waiter in whispers, after we had placed the order. We’re just settling in when he tells me that his cousin, who is a lead vocalist in a rock band will be performing at the restaurant tonight but is currently hanging out with our friends who might also join us later. All I did was complain about how we’re never left alone and got a huge smile in return 😐
Enter cousin! He starts singing Bruno Mars’ ‘Marry You’ (me in my head “Romantic song?? but you sing Rock!!”) with “I think ‘HE’ wants to marry you” instead of “I think ‘I’ wanna marry you” and I was like Ya Right!!! And my boyfriend jokingly asks “What if I do wanna marry you?” n I say “Why don’t we continue eating and have a good time?” By then the restaurant was empty except for a couple of tables and suddenly I see a big cake being brought to our table. At that point I wanted to inform the waiter that he’s got the wrong table and its neither of our birthdays but when I traced those cake-carrying hands back up to the face it was my FRIEND!! A closer look at the cake and it was a heart-shaped fruit gateaux which said ‘Will you marry me?’ THAT’s when it hit me that this is a PROPOSAL! I pushed my chair back in shock and had the ‘OMG, I can’t believe I’ve been crowned Miss World’ look on my face. On the other side, another friend was recording a video and champagne had now been brought to the table. Looked back and my boyfriend was down on one knee with a ring in his hand. Instead of saying “Yes, I will” I kept repeating ” No, no…what have you done?…why have you done this?” 😳 And the cousin paused his singing to confirm that I’d said yes because the song would soon be over 😆
Please excuse the quality of this pic..its a screengrab from a video
The proposal cake…yummy!!
I cried for a whole hour after that. Called home to tell folks that BOTH of us are coming home which my mom questioned with full Punjabi curiosity filling her up “Why is HE coming home?” and I kept it very short by telling her that he proposed. I entered the house and ran straight into my father’s arms and cried my heart out. My parents were so shocked they forgot to congratulate us 😛
Point of this detailed description was that even if you aren’t the oh-so-romantic and mushy types like us, enjoy these special moments. These special moments create memories for a lifetime and will always bring a smile on your face 🙂 Don’t waste them by shedding tears like I did.
And men, please take note, make it special for the love of your life no matter how long you’ve known each other – she will still appreciate it. Even if it’s an arranged match, at least go down on one knee at the engagement ceremony! I always found it very cheesy and lame and never fantasized this kind of proposal but today when I look back at how he had planned it, I feel so special. I’m glad even thedelhibride shares my views on guys proposing.
Every friend and relative who got to know the entire proposal story found it to be a very sweet gesture and not just romantic. Some ladies even exclaimed that there are very few men in India who would do something like that for their women. A lot of my friends hoped to find somebody like him and the others wished their husbands had proposed in a similar manner 😎 That’s when I realised that he truly had made it very special for me because up until then I was only reeling in shock. My aunt even mentioned that it will be a wonderful feeling for me to recount these days to my children when they grow up (ya my aunt is little senti) Haha!
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